As I talked about yesterday one of the lovely side benefits of being in ministry is hearing the perceptions, mostly negatively, of those who are outside the Church. While there are many complaints I hear, as well as many reasons people tell me they stay out of the Church, here is numero uno (and it’s #1 by a LONG SHOT):
The Church is SO judgmental: This is the one we all wish we had a nickel for every time we’ve heard it right? This is BY FAR the number one complaint I hear from people I talk with. Many have felt the church reject them in some way, often due to their choices (living with someone before marriage, coming out, an arrest, drinking, etc.). Others simply feel all the church does is cast judgment and rage against society, with the issue of homosexuality seeming to be the one I hear about the most. It doesn’t help, fair or not, that this is often the way the Church gets portrayed in the media. So the question becomes: how does the Church deal with the judgment perception problem? Here are three thoughts I have:
1. Keep following the Word: I’ve never bought the thoughts of some that we need to throw out, or even hide from, what’s in the Bible. The Bible was never politically correct (ah, hello, virtually every major New Testament character was put to death because of the “political incorrectness” of their thinking), and it’s likely to never be. As Christians we believe that humans sin, and one of our goals is to help in limiting that sin in the word. Therefore, we have to call sin sin, and sometimes that means confronting people with their sin (which some would call judging). It may not be PC, but I do think it is true to JC. Now, that being said…
2. Keep following Grace: I think many Christians have a super “Tim the Tool Man Taylor” type toilet for flushing grace and forgiveness down. We need to remember what was fundamentally said about Christ: For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him John 3:17. You see, like the high school girls who feel the constant need to point out my lack of fashion sense, Jesus comes into the world and calls out sins. Look at the likes of Zacchaeus, Levi, Paul, and the Woman at the Well. Messed up, sinful people, yet Jesus pours into their lives despite the sin, and the result is salvation. You see, I think the point of any judging we do as Christians should be to lead to God’s perfect Grace. I think that’s Jesus’ model, and thusly the one we should be following. When I was in high school I made a lot of poor choices. I had a friend named Stacia in my youth group who knew exactly what sort of life I was living, and she invited me over to talk about it. But here’s the thing: she approached it with love and with the purpose of making my life better. There was no name calling, anger, or belittling. She simply showed me love and led me right back to God. Had she simply ended our friendship or name called me to death I, in my high and mightiness back then, would have exited the church faster then Iowa exits the football national title race each year. People who are deep in sin don’t need to have it thrown in their face: they need to be loved as Christ loved us. And, I should add, we need to always make sure that the first person we confront about sin in life is ourself (see Matthew 7:3-5).
3. Keep being for something! Have you ever known someone who seems to be against everything, but seemingly for just about nothing? Do you really have any desire to be around them? As Christians we have so much to be for. We are for helping the poor. We are for reaching the lost. We are for positively transforming the world. We are for a better life for all. The Bible is FOR so many awesome things, so why lean so heavily on the negative? The Church needs to be balanced, being for as much (if not more) then they are against. In doing this we will do a better job of being the Church, reaching the lost, and truly being the hands and feet of Christ in the world.
So, let me wrap this up. I think some of the first steps we as the Church need to take in reaching out to a growingly anti-Church world is
1. Keep following the Word, even when it may not always be politically correct
2. Always remember that anything approaching judging needs to be done with the goal of leading to grace, forgiveness, and salvation
3. Don’t become a collection of naysayers, but remember all the things we as Christians should be positively for.